I wish I can just forget

How do I forget and get over someone?

thanks Dragon

Hugs Tennie



I know this sounds generic but time is a good healer... you may never get over them or forget about them, but the pain will ease soon enough. Losing someone who's still alive is also a grief process and I feel there are similarities in how we process this kind of grief. The lost opportunities, filling the gaps.
I think it will take a lot of work but don't overwhelm yourself. A lot of the healing is on a subconscious level. As the weeks and months, maybe years go by, you will naturally find yourself not feeling as intensely sad any more, you'll feel a peace within your heart

How that will come for you is unique, because it's not a one size fits all situation. Some will heal by doing things like pretending the person never existed, some will heal by writing and sharing fond memories they shared with the person who's left their life. Someone might find it helpful to talk about them, someone else may not want to mention their name at all. It's all really unique and only you can know what's going to help you, which approach is best for you....

And how will you know when something is helpful?, I guess the intensity of your emotions (sadness,anxiety, heavy heart) will fade a little but

It's all about small steps and removing bad/sad/negative triggers. Those messages, those photographs. If they are hurting you when you read or view them, that's a message it's not good to have around. It's just about sensing as you go along, what your triggers are

The most important thing?.. Being around people who care and friends who care to listen to you rather than making it all about themselves.

Love & peace and friendship will help you through

Be kind to yourself

Some things we have no control over. It's hard to accept there's nothing we can do to change a situation like this when we so desperately want to, but it's clear you have tried everything you can

accept that and make peace with yourself.. that's step one

self love, patience with yourself, clear space around you, loving friends and family

Also when it comes to negative memories plaguing you it's good to try and associate the triggers with something else. Memories are a pain circulating around in you mind. What time of day does it happen, lots of people notice it happens at night. So if being in a quiet room by yourself is a trigger you can do little things to distract yourself, maybe some uplifting or calming music that's non-triggering and reminds you of happier times

Maybe you could make a drink, get up, get some fresh air, call or text a friend,
on a particularly bad day maybe you could prepare a list of things you can go through to keep yourself busy

Like moving furniture around, going for a walk / drive to a place you haven't been to ffor a while,
planning something in the future to look forward to. Video games, whatever it takes to distract you from the thoughts

Mystic-sisterhood are here for you

Thank you